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The plural possessive is "ladies'." "Lady" is singular, so if you were referring solely to one woman's shoes, it would be "the lady's shoes." As for your second question, I'm assuming you're referring to a group of women in your salutation of them, so it would be "Good morning, ladies." And as you're addressing them directly, the comma preceding "ladies" is necessary.
I tried searching Google Ngram Viewer for "Look lady" and "Listen lady", both capitalized so as to occur at the start of a sentence, with the hope that these ngrams would reflect the usage of "lady" in a derogatory/dismissive sense. It seems to have come into usage around 1950, and really took off in the late 1990s.
etymology - "Look, lady", "Listen, lady" – lady as a pejorative ...
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Yes, milady comes from "my lady". Milady (from my lady) is an English term of address to a noble woman. It is the female form of milord. And here's some background on milord: In the nineteenth century, milord (also milor) (pronounced "mee-lor") was well-known as a word which continental Europeans (especially French) whose jobs often brought them into contact with travellers (innkeepers, guides ...
Some websites have a different version: 23 and me punctuates it "lady, wife, mistress of a household". Both that and the OP's link reference Dictionary of American Family Names, 2nd edition, Oxford University Press, 2022, which should be your first port of call for accurate details and more information.